First, starting today, you need to dedicate careful time and attention to developing your co-pilot function of Harmony ("Extraverted Feeling").
This is the #1 thing you can do to grow right now.
Without a strong co-pilot, you're going to stay stuck in the same place with the same old challenges.
This is done by focusing on where you end and other people begin. This function is crucial for creating boundaries.
It also a function that helps get everyone's needs met. The better you flex it, the more you will remember that you are part of 'everyone'!
Second, you need to become aware of your 10 Year Old Accuracy ("Introverted Thinking") and how it hijacks your personality, steering you away from where you actually want to go.
It is the inner critic that helps you get distance from others, but can send you into a perfectionistic tailspin. It can also be cruel in its self-criticism and judgments of others.
Developing strategies for dealing with this, and getting yourself back on track is essential to success.
Third, your 3 Year Old Sensation ("Extraverted Sensing") needs attention, too. Learn how to give your 3 Year Old function what it needs to keep you safe, healthy, and on the right track.
It can be easy to ignore if it feels like too much stimulation, but it's also how you gain energy, become present to the moment, and feel MAX ALIVENESS. Without it, you will never take action to truly live your life.
If you ignore your 3 Year Old it will find unhealthy ways to get your attention.
Now we've got some good news and bad news.
The good news is that some people naturally learn to do all three of these over a lifetime.
You can figure it out on your own, BUT:
The bad news is that it can take years and years of pain, frustration, and missed opportunities before you figure it out.
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