“INTJs and INTPs: Finally, Navigate Small Talk, Emotional Vampires, Social Games and Office Politics — So You Can Ignite the Motivation You Crave to Create Deep Relationships and a Purposeful Career.”
Most people don’t understand your mind. Learn how to be respected for your analysis and perspective without being labeled as a cold, detached “robot.”
INTJ GIFT #1: You’re Amazing at Analyzing Situations
“My gift is logically analyzing and solving problems. I can absorb large amounts of information in many different fields.” - INTJ
“I understand where things are going and instinctively follow the right path (9 times out of ten). Then, I analyze it — making scenarios, calculating possible outcomes, visualizing them, making diagrams (love my diagrams!), etc.
I usually inform other concerned parties but they just won't listen to me.” - INTJ
“At work, I'm really good at figuring out ways to report and analyze data. I mostly use Salesforce CRM and Microsoft Excel. Outside of work, I'm really good at my local bar's trivia night (I crush it when it comes to history, geography, and literature).” - INTJ
“I’m good at analyzing a problem and coming up with a solution ADAPT to virtually any situation (may not like it but can do it) RECALL facts and intricate details easily” - INTJ
“I can analyze the facts, see the big picture, set aside my feelings to see things objectively” - INTJ
“Some of my strengths include listening skills, planning, seeing the big picture, interpreting/analyzing information or events, stepping back and seeing the "whole" of the matter, synthesizing new perspectives, and giving advice.” - INTJ
“I understand where things are going and instinctively follow the right path (9 times out of ten). Then, I analyze it — making scenarios, calculating possible outcomes, visualizing them, making diagrams (love my diagrams!), etc.
I usually inform other concerned parties but they just won't listen to me.” - INTJ
“At work, I'm really good at figuring out ways to report and analyze data. I mostly use Salesforce CRM and Microsoft Excel. Outside of work, I'm really good at my local bar's trivia night (I crush it when it comes to history, geography, and literature).” - INTJ
“I’m good at analyzing a problem and coming up with a solution ADAPT to virtually any situation (may not like it but can do it) RECALL facts and intricate details easily” - INTJ
“I can analyze the facts, see the big picture, set aside my feelings to see things objectively” - INTJ
“Some of my strengths include listening skills, planning, seeing the big picture, interpreting/analyzing information or events, stepping back and seeing the "whole" of the matter, synthesizing new perspectives, and giving advice.” - INTJ
"I get motivated by helping people, because it helps me learn faster. The ultimate solution of finding the right way of doing things that helps everyone." - INTP
"Reaching above average level of knowledge on a topic of interest very quickly, identifying the most important pieces out of a large amount of information, motivating others with realistic and effective strategies." - INTP
"I can pick up (specifically IT Networking/Network Security) topics fairly quickly, relating concepts to other things I know, and adding them into my INTP Encyclopedia/Web." - INTP
"When I learn something, my brain is instantly rewarded. Maybe I receive a cognitive affirmation, that serves as much needed support." - INTP
"When I encounter an issue that I would like to investigate in greater detail, then I have noticed being able to quickly think of things to ask as I investigate it." - INTP
"Learning things quickly in the respects of any art or science." - INTP
"Reaching above average level of knowledge on a topic of interest very quickly, identifying the most important pieces out of a large amount of information, motivating others with realistic and effective strategies." - INTP
"I can pick up (specifically IT Networking/Network Security) topics fairly quickly, relating concepts to other things I know, and adding them into my INTP Encyclopedia/Web." - INTP
"When I learn something, my brain is instantly rewarded. Maybe I receive a cognitive affirmation, that serves as much needed support." - INTP
"When I encounter an issue that I would like to investigate in greater detail, then I have noticed being able to quickly think of things to ask as I investigate it." - INTP
"Learning things quickly in the respects of any art or science." - INTP
INTP GIFT #2: You Simplify Complex Systems for the Rest of us
"Most people dismiss my insights because I seem to come to them too quickly. Most people underestimate the complexity of my thought processes." - INTP
"I troubleshoot well. I have good intuition to find errors in complex systems." - INTP
"Boiling complex systems down to their bare essentials: systems modeling, information architecture, and interaction design.
I build software professionally, but I apply the same recognition or modelling of trends and relationships to everything else that captures my interest. e.g. philosophy, theology, personality typology, and gaming" - INTP
"An INTP strength of mine is my ability to create from the perspective of a detached observer. I can enter into a non judging mental state, observe and quickly see many possible connections between seemingly unconnected ideas/processes/objects and construct scenarios around the implications of building novel combinations. I love having this ability and I use it to create art, explore for buried depositional environments (I work as a geologist) and to generally entertain myself." - INTP
"Analyze everything! Take in loads of information and somehow make sense of it all. Conceptualize. Understand how things work. Brainstorm inside my head. Think quick. Know when someone is talking a load of rubbish (but have learned very good self control over the years also). Demonstrate love, care and compassion (don't always have the right words but I'm getting there, learning from others). Use all the information I've collected over the years to very quickly and easily engage with others (I could have been working in a place a month and know more people then someone who has been working there for years). Understand what others may be thinking and act/respond appropriately. And the list of using my strengths to overcome my weaknesses continues to grow every week…" - INTP
"Understanding abstract concepts and applying learned frameworks to new areas. Creative problem solving." - INTP
"I troubleshoot well. I have good intuition to find errors in complex systems." - INTP
"Boiling complex systems down to their bare essentials: systems modeling, information architecture, and interaction design.
I build software professionally, but I apply the same recognition or modelling of trends and relationships to everything else that captures my interest. e.g. philosophy, theology, personality typology, and gaming" - INTP
"An INTP strength of mine is my ability to create from the perspective of a detached observer. I can enter into a non judging mental state, observe and quickly see many possible connections between seemingly unconnected ideas/processes/objects and construct scenarios around the implications of building novel combinations. I love having this ability and I use it to create art, explore for buried depositional environments (I work as a geologist) and to generally entertain myself." - INTP
"Analyze everything! Take in loads of information and somehow make sense of it all. Conceptualize. Understand how things work. Brainstorm inside my head. Think quick. Know when someone is talking a load of rubbish (but have learned very good self control over the years also). Demonstrate love, care and compassion (don't always have the right words but I'm getting there, learning from others). Use all the information I've collected over the years to very quickly and easily engage with others (I could have been working in a place a month and know more people then someone who has been working there for years). Understand what others may be thinking and act/respond appropriately. And the list of using my strengths to overcome my weaknesses continues to grow every week…" - INTP
"Understanding abstract concepts and applying learned frameworks to new areas. Creative problem solving." - INTP
INTJ GIFT #2: You’re an Amazing Planner
INTJ GIFT #3: You See the “Bigger Picture”
INTP GIFT #3: You're a Kick-Ass Problem Solver
As An INTJ or INTP
You Have Gifts That People Rarely See or Appreciate
Even when you do your best to share your insights... the careful information you’ve gathered from years of research... the results of your analysis, the creative solutions that will strike at the very heart of a problem…
Even when you do the very thing everyone says they want (“We just want solutions!”), you show up ready to help but are stripped of your opportunity to shine...
You want to use your gifts to make an impact in the world...you have potential but…
Even when you do the very thing everyone says they want (“We just want solutions!”), you show up ready to help but are stripped of your opportunity to shine...
You want to use your gifts to make an impact in the world...you have potential but…
Your Life Isn’t Where You Expected it to Be...
Why INTJs & INTPs Get Stuck in “Professional Purgatory”
Reason #1: You're Stuck as a Cog in an Inefficient Machine
Picture yourself working on a project where you've identified a faster, more efficient method. However, your suggestion is brushed aside because "that's not how we do things here."
"I remember working at a big agency. I got to the point that I didn't care any more. I started out with so many ideas about how we could do better work and be more efficient, but soon I learned to just come in and do it the wrong way because that's the way it was done." - INTP
“I struggle with boredom and thinking everyone is an idiot because of their slow processing speed. I get lost in the joy of my own thoughts because what others are talking about doesn't hold my interest.” - INTP
You sit at your work desk and shake your head at how poorly designed all the systems are around you. Your boss makes bad decisions. Your co-workers feel like zombies. All the talents and skills you thought you were bringing to the adult working world have been reduced down and disregarded. All they want is a button pusher - not a deep thinker.
Three reasons why you feel "stuck":
1) Lack of Appreciation for Innovation: Your analytical mind constantly seeks better solutions, but the lack of appreciation for these innovations can be frustrating.
2) Constrained by Bureaucracy: Traditional hierarchical structures can often stifle your free-thinking nature.
3) Feeling Underutilized: Knowing you could contribute so much more but being limited by the system can make you feel like an underused resource.
INTPs & INTJs in their own words:
"I remember working at a big agency. I got to the point that I didn't care any more. I started out with so many ideas about how we could do better work and be more efficient, but soon I learned to just come in and do it the wrong way because that's the way it was done." - INTP
“I struggle with boredom and thinking everyone is an idiot because of their slow processing speed. I get lost in the joy of my own thoughts because what others are talking about doesn't hold my interest.” - INTP
Reason #2: Work has "Beaten the Passion Out of You”
Recall those early days in your career or studies when you were excited about every challenge, only to be met with repetitive tasks and a lack of intellectual stimulation over time.
"My biggest challenge has been to find a career that fits, that doesn't feel like it's sucking out my life essence. I want something fulfilling." - INTP
"Anytime I don't feel challenged at a job, I start to feel stagnant because I'm not progressing or learning anything new. Because I learn really fast, I tend to get bored and lazy within about a year at any one job, at which point I'll start looking for a new one. This has happened to me at nearly every job I've ever had." - INTJ
This started when you were still a child. The adults in your world didn’t understand your unique gifts and mental abilities. They just wanted you to follow the directions and move on. In adulthood this carries over into your work life. You learned to settle in school to get the grade. Now you settle to get the paycheck.
Three reasons why you feel drained of passion:
1) Lack of Challenge: You thrive on solving complex problems; routine tasks can quickly become monotonous.
2) Misunderstood Enthusiasm: Your passion for diving deep can sometimes be perceived as being too intense or obsessive by others.
3) Unfulfilled Potential: Knowing you have more to offer but not having the avenue to do so can be disheartening.
INTPs & INTJs in their own words:
INTPs & INTJs in their own words:
"My biggest challenge has been to find a career that fits, that doesn't feel like it's sucking out my life essence. I want something fulfilling." - INTP
"Anytime I don't feel challenged at a job, I start to feel stagnant because I'm not progressing or learning anything new. Because I learn really fast, I tend to get bored and lazy within about a year at any one job, at which point I'll start looking for a new one. This has happened to me at nearly every job I've ever had." - INTJ
Reason #3: You’re Feeling Doubt Because You Lack Direction and Clarity on What YOU Want to Bring to the World
You've always had a vision of making a significant impact, but the myriad of possibilities and the lack of a clear path can be paralyzing.
Without having clarity about what you want for your life - you drift aimlessly through your career. After a while you start to feel invisible - like a wallflower that is no longer able to command attention for your thoughts or ideas.
Three reasons why you feels confused:
1) Overanalysis: With your propensity for deep thinking, it's easy to get caught in a loop of endless analysis, leading to inaction.
2) Seeking Perfection: The quest for the 'perfect' path or decision can often result in feeling stuck.
3) External Misalignment: The external world's expectations might not always align with your internal compass, leading to confusion.
INTPs & INTJs in their own words:
“I struggle with actually taking action to fulfill my dreams and goals. I end up planning and thinking too much about my ideas instead of making them real. I need to stop being such a perfectionist.” - INTJ
“I have a really hard time sticking to tasks, generally with my university studies because I'm more interested in conceptual pursuits than my schoolwork. But I gotta study to get do well in college.” - INTP
“I’m very insecure about the future. I feel tied to my desk and feel like time is racing by without me finding the thing I can excel at. I want to do something big with my time and knowledge, but most of time it feels like I should give up, choose a job and just secure a living.” - INTJ
“I hate my own procrastination and apathy. They’ve really taken a toll on me, and I find going through everyday life boring, emotionally exhausting, and worry it will be like this forever (with all my doubts, the loneliness, and the pressure).” - INTJ
“I have self-doubt especially when it comes to feelings. My self-doubt gets so bad that I doubt it when I am feeling sick, which might be not ideal, to put it lightly.” - INTJ
“I struggle with actually taking action to fulfill my dreams and goals. I end up planning and thinking too much about my ideas instead of making them real. I need to stop being such a perfectionist.” - INTJ
“I have a really hard time sticking to tasks, generally with my university studies because I'm more interested in conceptual pursuits than my schoolwork. But I gotta study to get do well in college.” - INTP
“I’m very insecure about the future. I feel tied to my desk and feel like time is racing by without me finding the thing I can excel at. I want to do something big with my time and knowledge, but most of time it feels like I should give up, choose a job and just secure a living.” - INTJ
“I hate my own procrastination and apathy. They’ve really taken a toll on me, and I find going through everyday life boring, emotionally exhausting, and worry it will be like this forever (with all my doubts, the loneliness, and the pressure).” - INTJ
“I have self-doubt especially when it comes to feelings. My self-doubt gets so bad that I doubt it when I am feeling sick, which might be not ideal, to put it lightly.” - INTJ
Why INTJs & INTPs Feel Like
Their Personal Life is a "6 Out of 10"
Their Personal Life is a "6 Out of 10"
INTx Challenge #1: You're an “Open Book”
But People Call You a Dull, Lifeless “Robot”
But People Call You a Dull, Lifeless “Robot”
People get the wrong message from you all the time. Besides interruptions to your focused workflow (which is truly annoying) you actually WANT to connect with other humans. And despite your best efforts to be open, you hear that you are “bitchy” - “cold” - “distant” and a “robot.” Your attempts at being friendly and helpful repel people instead of draw them in. And it’s confusing.
“Even though I very much want to provide the right emotional response for people, when I attempt to do so, I feel like my face is making some kind of weird contortion in my attempt to force it to fit their sudden emotional needs. I can do this somewhat better for people very close to me, or those I have known for a long time. Otherwise, I go into instant panic mode when someone needs an emotional response. In my defense, I will absolutely do everything in my power to help you in any real way I can, will give you many chances to get things right, and will accept you for who you are, even when that is the exact opposite of me. - INTP
“I'm more of an observer rather than a participator. People take that to mean that I'm not interested in what's happening or I don't like them. As an INTP female - I've always felt that other women have some kind of secret code word I need to know in order to be part of their “inner circle.” I’m often left out of many group activities since my female friends never see me as “one of the girls.” I also don't get invited to “guy weekends” since I’m not a dude.” - INTP
“I really dislike surface level interactions, so I'm genuinely surprised when others are content with them. I prefer to form strong bonds with people. When having a conversation with another person, I'm eager to figure them out. The deeper the conversation the better, which is either unmatched or met with feelings of discomfort.” - INTJ
“Just because I don't show them, people seem to think I don't have any feelings.” - INTJ
“I'm not really interested in talking about the latest sports scores or celebrity drama. I prefer to ask deeper questions and to have more genuine experiences with people which usually catches others off guard and sometimes makes them uncomfortable.” - INTP
“Even though I very much want to provide the right emotional response for people, when I attempt to do so, I feel like my face is making some kind of weird contortion in my attempt to force it to fit their sudden emotional needs. I can do this somewhat better for people very close to me, or those I have known for a long time. Otherwise, I go into instant panic mode when someone needs an emotional response. In my defense, I will absolutely do everything in my power to help you in any real way I can, will give you many chances to get things right, and will accept you for who you are, even when that is the exact opposite of me. - INTP
“I'm more of an observer rather than a participator. People take that to mean that I'm not interested in what's happening or I don't like them. As an INTP female - I've always felt that other women have some kind of secret code word I need to know in order to be part of their “inner circle.” I’m often left out of many group activities since my female friends never see me as “one of the girls.” I also don't get invited to “guy weekends” since I’m not a dude.” - INTP
“I really dislike surface level interactions, so I'm genuinely surprised when others are content with them. I prefer to form strong bonds with people. When having a conversation with another person, I'm eager to figure them out. The deeper the conversation the better, which is either unmatched or met with feelings of discomfort.” - INTJ
“Just because I don't show them, people seem to think I don't have any feelings.” - INTJ
“I'm not really interested in talking about the latest sports scores or celebrity drama. I prefer to ask deeper questions and to have more genuine experiences with people which usually catches others off guard and sometimes makes them uncomfortable.” - INTP
INTx Challenge #2: You Stand on the Sidelines Watching the Social Game - Hoping That Someone - Anyone - Will Invite You to Play...
...and once you’re invited, you get stressed out. Little things, like remembering people’s names, and how you’re supposed to greet them. How long will you have to deal with small talk? What if you don’t come across friendly and likeable? What if you have to pretend you’re interested in something inane?
How do you NOT judge other people... and find yourself back to square one?
If you feel this way, you’re not alone…
"I can be very good in social situations, I can also be very bad... There is usually no in between. I am either the clown who leads the group, or the follower because I don't care enough to assert myself. When I am awkward, which is very often... I don't care. If I am embarrassed, it goes away quickly because it is silly to be embarrassed. - INTJ
“I don’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I’m worried about coming off as rude or uninterested unless I comply with the right social cues or obligations for the sake of politeness.” - INTP
“I have a tendency to push others away and become a shut-in when I've been hurt, rejected, or don't feel like I belong. It takes a lot for me to step out of my comfort zone and go to an event alone because I fear rejection.” - INTJ
“I’m awkward at regular social chit chat. I’m bad at responding to text messages/emails that don't require a response (but the person is expecting one). I don't know how to start a conversation with a person I don't know anything about.” - INTJ
“I have difficulty approaching people. When speaking, I tend to talk quietly with as little words as possible. I tend to have anxiety attacks when I'm unprepared to socialize.” -INTP
“After a lot of socializing, I have to hide for a while. I haven't figured out this whole socializing thing, so I spend a fair amount of energy trying to understand what the expectations are in each type of relationship. I love people, and I don't want to hurt them, but I'm afraid that I will on accident, just because, as an introvert, I sometimes have to avoid them. I don't understand what people expect from me.” - INTJ
How do you NOT judge other people... and find yourself back to square one?
If you feel this way, you’re not alone…
"I can be very good in social situations, I can also be very bad... There is usually no in between. I am either the clown who leads the group, or the follower because I don't care enough to assert myself. When I am awkward, which is very often... I don't care. If I am embarrassed, it goes away quickly because it is silly to be embarrassed. - INTJ
“I don’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I’m worried about coming off as rude or uninterested unless I comply with the right social cues or obligations for the sake of politeness.” - INTP
“I have a tendency to push others away and become a shut-in when I've been hurt, rejected, or don't feel like I belong. It takes a lot for me to step out of my comfort zone and go to an event alone because I fear rejection.” - INTJ
“I’m awkward at regular social chit chat. I’m bad at responding to text messages/emails that don't require a response (but the person is expecting one). I don't know how to start a conversation with a person I don't know anything about.” - INTJ
“I have difficulty approaching people. When speaking, I tend to talk quietly with as little words as possible. I tend to have anxiety attacks when I'm unprepared to socialize.” -INTP
“After a lot of socializing, I have to hide for a while. I haven't figured out this whole socializing thing, so I spend a fair amount of energy trying to understand what the expectations are in each type of relationship. I love people, and I don't want to hurt them, but I'm afraid that I will on accident, just because, as an introvert, I sometimes have to avoid them. I don't understand what people expect from me.” - INTJ
INTx Challenge #3: Finding Like Minded People to Talk To
Today is a Carbon Copy of Yesterday...
...Each Day Seems Like a Copy...of a Copy...of a Copy.
...Each Day Seems Like a Copy...of a Copy...of a Copy.
There’s some money in the bank. Your job is okay. Your relationships are okay.
It’s a 6 out of 10 day. It’s a 6 out of 10 job. You have a 6 out of 10 relationship.
And now… average all that together and you’ve got yourself a basic run of the mill 6 out of 10 life. Ugggh.
Truth is..
As an INTJ or INTP - you are actually wired a little differently than others. You can have a 10 out of 10 life that matches your 10 out of 10 intellect and perspectives.
BUT (and this is a big “but”)...
...You will not be able to get there the way most other people get there. It’s going to take a different path for you because of how you’re uniquely wired.
The life you’re living is not reflecting the potential you have deep inside you.
And as each day ticks by you know it.
Deep down, you may be wondering…
“Why am I not living up to my full potential?”
“I know I’m smart, so why can’t I figure this out?” I can learn anything, so why can’t I wrap my mind around this?”
“Why can’t I get myself motivated? Why does it feel like nothing matters? Does anything matter?”
“Is there something I’m missing...did I not get the memo?”
“Do I have what it takes?”
Should I Settle Like Everyone Else?
INTx Option 1: Surrender Your Dignity and
"Dumb Yourself Down” Life's Templates.
"Dumb Yourself Down” Life's Templates.
In this option you play the fool - lower the quality of your thinking - and “play the game” striving for a high quality life. Most people around you (let’s say around 97%) go for this option. They follow the cookie cutter template and seemingly turn off their brains.
— OR —
INTx Option 2: Be a Disciplined & Rigorous Thinker
at the Expense of Having a Vibrant Life.
at the Expense of Having a Vibrant Life.
In this option you keep your standards high - you blaze your own trail - but surrender your social life, career, and impact in the world to average levels.
It feels very unfair that you are forced to accept one of these terrible choices.
Follow the template and grease the wheels at work and socially. Or blaze your own trail down the road of social isolation and career suffering.
The good news… this is a false dichotomy.
It’s bullshit designed to control you. Plain and simple.
The world gives you this false choice to render you impotent.
If people can force you to stoop and meet them on their terms (THEIR false dichotomy) you aren’t threatening. You’re playing the game by THEIR rules and your intellect and perspectives are under control and can be manipulated.
To have the life you want will require action on your part... and it is possible.
There is a way to keep your dignity AND have an impactful career with rewarding human relationships.
The key is to take back control of your life - take action - and truly blaze your own trail that includes a fulfilling career and deeply connected relationships.
Right now you’re nodding… “I know I know. I need to take responsibility and action for my life - but I lack motivation.”
We call this challenge...
It feels very unfair that you are forced to accept one of these terrible choices.
Follow the template and grease the wheels at work and socially. Or blaze your own trail down the road of social isolation and career suffering.
The good news… this is a false dichotomy.
It’s bullshit designed to control you. Plain and simple.
The world gives you this false choice to render you impotent.
If people can force you to stoop and meet them on their terms (THEIR false dichotomy) you aren’t threatening. You’re playing the game by THEIR rules and your intellect and perspectives are under control and can be manipulated.
To have the life you want will require action on your part... and it is possible.
There is a way to keep your dignity AND have an impactful career with rewarding human relationships.
The key is to take back control of your life - take action - and truly blaze your own trail that includes a fulfilling career and deeply connected relationships.
Right now you’re nodding… “I know I know. I need to take responsibility and action for my life - but I lack motivation.”
We call this challenge...
"The Perpetual Preparation Problem"
Both INTJs and INTPs have a challenge with endless preparation.
The story they keep telling themselves is, “I’m not ready. I need more time!”
You know - watch one more instructional video. Read one more article. Gather just a little bit more data before making a decision or getting into action.
AND - the two types do this for slightly different reasons. INTJs and INTPs are both using “perpetual preparation” as an avoidance strategy - but what are you avoiding?
The answer is found in the core fear driving each INTx type:
INTJs fear wasting energy on useless projects.
INTPs fear acting before they have full clarity.
Let’s break each of these down separately.
The story they keep telling themselves is, “I’m not ready. I need more time!”
You know - watch one more instructional video. Read one more article. Gather just a little bit more data before making a decision or getting into action.
AND - the two types do this for slightly different reasons. INTJs and INTPs are both using “perpetual preparation” as an avoidance strategy - but what are you avoiding?
The answer is found in the core fear driving each INTx type:
INTJs fear wasting energy on useless projects.
INTPs fear acting before they have full clarity.
Let’s break each of these down separately.
How INTJs Can Conquer the “Perpetual Preparation Problem”
As an INTJ - you guard your energy like a mother bear protecting her cubs. You hate (and we can’t stress this enough) HATE wasting energy. Simply the idea of burning energy on pointless projects or people makes your skin crawl.
And because of this you value certainty BEFORE action.
You are the type of person to “measure twice and cut once.”
Nothing sounds more hellish than to have to redo work you’ve already done...
Except maybe doing work that doesn’t actually matter in the first place.
Your mindset: “If I can research and plan thoroughly - then I can be CERTAIN my actions will matter and my outcomes are guaranteed.”
So you read another book. Then another article. Then you sit and think a little more. Then you study deeply how other people have achieved this goal.
But while you’re sitting in your reading chair the clock keeps ticking and you haven’t jumped into action yet.
Your hope is that by gathering more information you will somehow be certain of your outcomes.
Your fear is wasting energy. You hope certainty will give you the motivation you desire.
Unfortunately, while planning is one of your core competencies, prescience can’t give you true certainty. Nothing in life can give you true certainty.
This hearkens back to the famous Kierkegaard quote, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
The real solution is to get into action. You will gain motivation and certainty by taking ACTION.
It’s like working out. If you waited to get into shape AFTER you felt energy - you may never get your ass to the gym. Going to the gym gives you energy.
This is the same with projects and motivation. Even if you waste a little energy in the beginning - you are ultimately training your mind. After practice - it becomes easier. If you go to the gym often - your body will begin to crave the energy it gives you.
The wisdom that comes from experience (ie. getting into action and gathering unexpected knowledge) is better than certainty. Experience is the antidote to a colorless existence.
And because of this you value certainty BEFORE action.
You are the type of person to “measure twice and cut once.”
Nothing sounds more hellish than to have to redo work you’ve already done...
Except maybe doing work that doesn’t actually matter in the first place.
Your mindset: “If I can research and plan thoroughly - then I can be CERTAIN my actions will matter and my outcomes are guaranteed.”
So you read another book. Then another article. Then you sit and think a little more. Then you study deeply how other people have achieved this goal.
But while you’re sitting in your reading chair the clock keeps ticking and you haven’t jumped into action yet.
Your hope is that by gathering more information you will somehow be certain of your outcomes.
Your fear is wasting energy. You hope certainty will give you the motivation you desire.
Unfortunately, while planning is one of your core competencies, prescience can’t give you true certainty. Nothing in life can give you true certainty.
This hearkens back to the famous Kierkegaard quote, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
The real solution is to get into action. You will gain motivation and certainty by taking ACTION.
It’s like working out. If you waited to get into shape AFTER you felt energy - you may never get your ass to the gym. Going to the gym gives you energy.
This is the same with projects and motivation. Even if you waste a little energy in the beginning - you are ultimately training your mind. After practice - it becomes easier. If you go to the gym often - your body will begin to crave the energy it gives you.
The wisdom that comes from experience (ie. getting into action and gathering unexpected knowledge) is better than certainty. Experience is the antidote to a colorless existence.
How INTPs Can Conquer the “Perpetual Preparation Problem”
You as an INTP have a secret: you care about your reputation.
Not your “reputation” in the usual sense of the word. You don’t care what people think about you - but you do care how people think about how you think.
You want others to see you as you are: you're a competent thinker with elegant logic.
Before you act you need to know that you won’t feel stupid or foolish.
The best way to prevent making a dumb mistake? Become an expert. You ensure you’ve gathered enough data and information to showcase your intelligence and competence.
Plus, you're addicted to learning. It’s hard to say “enough” to something that has intrinsic reward.
Your motivation is fueled by CLARITY. Clarity gives you the confidence that a task or project will be done well. It’s the part of you that knows the right course of action.
As an INTP - you may have experienced the motivational power of clarity. It’s like getting a runner’s high. You no longer have to push, you’re being pulled by its magic.
And, as a side benefit, your reputation is preserved and others will admire the level of expertise you bring to the project.
Here’s the thing: Clarity comes from action.
This goes back to the DIKW model - Data, Information, Knowledge, Wisdom.
Clarity produces a sense of knowing for you, because it’s the product of knowledge. Knowledge is a different creature from data and information. It’s can’t be culled from a book. It’s the result of experience.
Clarity is calibration and refinement. It’s a series of test/iterate, with knowledge and wisdom waiting for you at the end.
You can sit and read to prepare or you can get into action and begin to get rapid clarity as you move. Much like INTJs - you need to start training your mind to have a bias for action.
To help INTPs and INTJs get into action we've designed a program just for you...
Not your “reputation” in the usual sense of the word. You don’t care what people think about you - but you do care how people think about how you think.
You want others to see you as you are: you're a competent thinker with elegant logic.
Before you act you need to know that you won’t feel stupid or foolish.
The best way to prevent making a dumb mistake? Become an expert. You ensure you’ve gathered enough data and information to showcase your intelligence and competence.
Plus, you're addicted to learning. It’s hard to say “enough” to something that has intrinsic reward.
Your motivation is fueled by CLARITY. Clarity gives you the confidence that a task or project will be done well. It’s the part of you that knows the right course of action.
As an INTP - you may have experienced the motivational power of clarity. It’s like getting a runner’s high. You no longer have to push, you’re being pulled by its magic.
And, as a side benefit, your reputation is preserved and others will admire the level of expertise you bring to the project.
Here’s the thing: Clarity comes from action.
This goes back to the DIKW model - Data, Information, Knowledge, Wisdom.
Clarity produces a sense of knowing for you, because it’s the product of knowledge. Knowledge is a different creature from data and information. It’s can’t be culled from a book. It’s the result of experience.
Clarity is calibration and refinement. It’s a series of test/iterate, with knowledge and wisdom waiting for you at the end.
You can sit and read to prepare or you can get into action and begin to get rapid clarity as you move. Much like INTJs - you need to start training your mind to have a bias for action.
To help INTPs and INTJs get into action we've designed a program just for you...
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Discover How INTJs & INTPs Can Have Deep Relationships and a Purposeful Career by Navigating Small Talk, Emotional Vampires, Social Games, Office Politics & Other Barriers Blocking Your Success.
In this in-depth, 15-hour program, we introduce you the “INTX Council” — six top-performing INTJ and INTP men and women who reveal how to thrive in your personal relationships and career.
We’ve paired their insights with simple action steps to get you started. We’ve refined these practicals over the past seven years….after coaching INTPs and INTJs like you...from a 27-year-woman diving back into dating scene after her painful breakup to the CEO of a $1.2 billion tech company.
We’ve paired their insights with simple action steps to get you started. We’ve refined these practicals over the past seven years….after coaching INTPs and INTJs like you...from a 27-year-woman diving back into dating scene after her painful breakup to the CEO of a $1.2 billion tech company.
“This program was exactly what I hoped for. It was great hearing mature INTJs share their struggles and solutions. And it gave me a new boost of energy and determination to continue down my path of personal development. The INTP sections were useful and even relevant for INTJs.” - INTP
"I could write a book on why I love INTx Unleashed, but simply put: it brought awareness and language around certain challenges in my life...so now I can create a plan of action for myself. Listening to this program helped me to recognize my strengths — and embrace my "weirdness" as a gift I bring to this world." - INTJ
"INTx Unleashed gave me a deeper understanding of my INTP type, particularly regarding their use of the exploration (Ne) function." - INTP
"I love this program. I got it to better understand my personality type, as an INTJ female, and the types of beloved ones, INTPs. I got his program because I was trying to connect my intelligent brain and thought patterns with my female identity — those two often seem disconnected. For men, my personality often seems to be frightening or unattractive — and my INTP-sister experiences the same." - INTJ
“Clarifying my own wiring; helping me understanding my son (INTP); looking for insight from like-minded people on how they handled life challenges (isolation, exploration, social interaction) — that’s what I got out of this program.”
- INTJ with INTP son
"I could write a book on why I love INTx Unleashed, but simply put: it brought awareness and language around certain challenges in my life...so now I can create a plan of action for myself. Listening to this program helped me to recognize my strengths — and embrace my "weirdness" as a gift I bring to this world." - INTJ
"INTx Unleashed gave me a deeper understanding of my INTP type, particularly regarding their use of the exploration (Ne) function." - INTP
"I love this program. I got it to better understand my personality type, as an INTJ female, and the types of beloved ones, INTPs. I got his program because I was trying to connect my intelligent brain and thought patterns with my female identity — those two often seem disconnected. For men, my personality often seems to be frightening or unattractive — and my INTP-sister experiences the same." - INTJ
“Clarifying my own wiring; helping me understanding my son (INTP); looking for insight from like-minded people on how they handled life challenges (isolation, exploration, social interaction) — that’s what I got out of this program.”
- INTJ with INTP son
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Inside This 15-hour Program You’re Going to Learn:
This course includes lifetime access to:
INTx Council: 15+ hours of “off-the-record” interviews with six top-performing INTJ/INTP men and women. All your interviews are downloadable and in an audio format so you can listen to them while you workout or commute.
Practical Programming: 3+ hours of tactical training videos on emotional intelligence, motivation and social intelligence (e.g. small talk, vulnerability, body language, giving advice, clarity, initiative, and office politics).
Post Game Analysis: our takeaways from each INTx interview including mental frameworks, examples, applied material, and study questions that you can seamlessly integrate into your life TODAY.
INTx Worksheets: practical, step-by-step action steps to help you apply the lessons you’re learning.
INTx Council: 15+ hours of “off-the-record” interviews with six top-performing INTJ/INTP men and women. All your interviews are downloadable and in an audio format so you can listen to them while you workout or commute.
Practical Programming: 3+ hours of tactical training videos on emotional intelligence, motivation and social intelligence (e.g. small talk, vulnerability, body language, giving advice, clarity, initiative, and office politics).
Post Game Analysis: our takeaways from each INTx interview including mental frameworks, examples, applied material, and study questions that you can seamlessly integrate into your life TODAY.
INTx Worksheets: practical, step-by-step action steps to help you apply the lessons you’re learning.
How to Ignite the Motivation You Crave to Create
Deep Relationships and a Purposeful Career
Deep Relationships and a Purposeful Career
INTx Council Member #1: Patrycia Slawuta, PhD
Social Psychologist (INTP) — “Do Epic Shit“
Social Psychologist (INTP) — “Do Epic Shit“
Patrycja Slawuta (INTP) is a social psychologist and entrepreneur with a PhD in Psychology. Today, she works with Fortune 500 companies as a consultant. Her life mantra is “Do Epic Shit.”
“I enjoyed Patrycia’s interview. It’s nice to hear stories from a successful INTP woman.” - INTP
“Great interview! I love how comfortable she is in exploring dark things.” - INTP
INTx Council Member #2: Kathryn Lively, PhD
Tenured professor at Dartmouth University (INTJ)
“Finding my femininity has been a lifelong struggle.”
Tenured professor at Dartmouth University (INTJ)
“Finding my femininity has been a lifelong struggle.”
Kathryn Lively is an INTJ and tenured professor in the Department of Sociology at Dartmouth University. Finding her femininity had been a lifelong struggle. Unsure of her place and her worth, Kathryn found armor in the form of her career.
“Kathryn's interview sparked immediate change in my life. She helped me to realize that I am not my role, and that my role is simply a strategy for getting my needs and desires met (genius!). I've never felt such alignment between my goals and values/desires, and I feel like I'm finally on the right track in life. Thank you so much for INTx!” - INTJ
INTx Council Member #3: Christian Ramos
Charisma Coach (INTP)
“Humor is key for correcting people’s bad thinking.”
Charisma Coach (INTP)
“Humor is key for correcting people’s bad thinking.”
Christian Ramos is an INTP is a charisma coach. You read that right – an INTP that teaches charisma. After years of isolation, putting his foot in his mouth and destroying relationships, the pain of loneliness eclipsed the fear of rejection.By using his native systems thinking to deconstruct ‘socializing’, he took natural strengths and applied them to skills not normally in the INTP wheelhouse.
“My favorite interview was the one with Christian Ramos. He doesn’t sugarcoat anything. He tells it like it is. And I appreciate that.” - INTP
“It was fascinating to listen to Christian because he’s an INTP who’s becoming a master of social interaction.” - INTP
Inside this 75 minute interview, you’re going to learn:
- How to go from having ZERO friends — or nobody to chill with on a Friday night — to curating your own tribe of like-minded friends who appreciate your mind and sense of humor (0:11:30)
- How to steer awkward conversations into fun, connective experiences so you can create intimacy (0:41:30)
- How to STOP being socially awkward (0:12:45)
- How to avoid “killing the vibe” so your friends, coworkers and family don't label you as a “robot”...or a grouchy, old bastard (0:11:30)
- How to call bullshit on sloppy logic without offending people or pissing them off (0:21:32)
- How to read people's emotions like a textbook, so you don’t get emotionally manipulated (1:08:45)
- How to motivate yourself to get stuff done...even if you’ve got a lazy streak (0:53:00)
- How to spark a deep connection with people without getting trapped in boring “small talk” (0:27:30)
- How to go from having ZERO friends — or nobody to chill with on a Friday night — to curating your own tribe of like-minded friends who appreciate your mind and sense of humor (0:11:30)
- How to steer awkward conversations into fun, connective experiences so you can create intimacy (0:41:30)
- How to STOP being socially awkward (0:12:45)
- How to avoid “killing the vibe” so your friends, coworkers and family don't label you as a “robot”...or a grouchy, old bastard (0:11:30)
- How to call bullshit on sloppy logic without offending people or pissing them off (0:21:32)
- How to read people's emotions like a textbook, so you don’t get emotionally manipulated (1:08:45)
- How to motivate yourself to get stuff done...even if you’ve got a lazy streak (0:53:00)
- How to spark a deep connection with people without getting trapped in boring “small talk” (0:27:30)
INTx Council Member #4: Brent Brewer
Tech Entrepreneur (INTJ)
“Love people, manage systems.”
Tech Entrepreneur (INTJ)
“Love people, manage systems.”
Brent Brewer (INTJ) is the founder and CEO of a consulting firm in New Brunswick, Canada. A key to his success came from the wise words of a friend: "love people, manage systems."
“I really liked listening to Brent (the Canadian guy) given he's an INTJ and how he articulated things that I have always felt.” - INTJ
“Brent's interview was good because it challenges us to employ our perceiving functions to rule out philosophies that aren't possible in today's world due to how systems have been set up in our current society.” - INTJ
INTx Council Member #5: A.J. Drenth
Founder of PersonalityJunkie.com (INTP)
“I found my energy in other people’s feedback.“
Founder of PersonalityJunkie.com (INTP)
“I found my energy in other people’s feedback.“
A.J. Drenth (INTP) is founder of PersonalityJunkie.com. After years of wallowing in an existential crisis, A.J. gave himself permission to lean into his gifts. Today, he’s an expert on type theory.
“I loved A.J.’s interview. He has a keen understanding of the INTP personality type. He gets my type on a granular level, and I love how specific he was on my type.” - INTP
“I have been a fan of Aj's work for about 3 years, so when I heard that he was doing an interview for the INTx program, I just had to get it.” - INTP
Inside this 45-minute interview, you’re going to learn:
- How to stay optimistic about your life during an existential crisis (0:21:55)
- A technique INTPs can use to stay motivated (0:26:35)
- 5 “Small Talk” Techniques for intuitive introverts so you don’t die of boredom (0:46:10)
- How to deal with big crowds/group dynamics (0:47:15)
- How to transition people from shallow small talk to deep, intuitive-friendly conversations (even if they’re a sensor) (0:46:43)
- A tip for becoming a deeply likable person that people trust and want to talk to (0:45:17)
- How INTPs can find like-minded friends (or or your future spouse) who appreciate your analytical mind and perspective (0:56:10)
- Discover the #1 lesson A.J. has learned about becoming a top-performing INTP
- Strategies for how to have a deep, authentic relationships with your partner (1:02:00)
- How to stay optimistic about your life during an existential crisis (0:21:55)
- A technique INTPs can use to stay motivated (0:26:35)
- 5 “Small Talk” Techniques for intuitive introverts so you don’t die of boredom (0:46:10)
- How to deal with big crowds/group dynamics (0:47:15)
- How to transition people from shallow small talk to deep, intuitive-friendly conversations (even if they’re a sensor) (0:46:43)
- A tip for becoming a deeply likable person that people trust and want to talk to (0:45:17)
- How INTPs can find like-minded friends (or or your future spouse) who appreciate your analytical mind and perspective (0:56:10)
- Discover the #1 lesson A.J. has learned about becoming a top-performing INTP
- Strategies for how to have a deep, authentic relationships with your partner (1:02:00)
INTx Council Member #6: Tom de Kok
Personal Growth Guru (INTJ)
“You can’t plan connection, it’s just something that happens.”
Personal Growth Guru (INTJ)
“You can’t plan connection, it’s just something that happens.”
Tom de Kok is an INTJ and personal development celebrity in his native country. He’s hosted more than 800 workshops on the subject of identity and the nature of reality. And no wonder. Experiencing deep pain upon learning at the age of 4 that he was adopted, Tom decided he would never let anyone in again. It wasn’t until years later he would begin his journey of self-discovery, ultimately achieving ego transcendence.
“Without question, Tom was my favorite. That interview was profound to me. His thoughts were fascinating” - INTJ
“Definitely Tom's. I loved his interview. The thing I didn't realize before listening through INTx was how much stake I was putting in people accepting me...or in wishing that I was more accepted. It was really crippling my worldview which, in turn, was making stretching all the more daunting. The idea that you should only surround yourself with people that are radically into you and if they aren't you should accept it for what it is and let them go is an amazingly powerful idea to me. Also - I mean - he is ridiculously direct and doesn't hold back on telling it how he sees it. What's not to love?” - INTJ
Inside this 45-minute interview, you’re going to learn:
- Tom reveals the two INTJ archetypes — and the differences in their attitudes towards science and people (0:17:25)
- How to control your emotions so they don’t control you (0:11:15)
- Discover the first thing you should do when your body is flooded with emotion (14:30)
- One of the #1 reasons INTx shut down emotionally (0:11:15)
- A counter-intuitive reason for solving challenges from your daily life...like getting your finances in order (0:37:35)
- The why of an INTJ’s desire for control (0:21:35)
- The #1 secret to making friends as an INTJ (1:04:30)
- Tom reveals the two INTJ archetypes — and the differences in their attitudes towards science and people (0:17:25)
- How to control your emotions so they don’t control you (0:11:15)
- Discover the first thing you should do when your body is flooded with emotion (14:30)
- One of the #1 reasons INTx shut down emotionally (0:11:15)
- A counter-intuitive reason for solving challenges from your daily life...like getting your finances in order (0:37:35)
- The why of an INTJ’s desire for control (0:21:35)
- The #1 secret to making friends as an INTJ (1:04:30)
From listening to these interviews you will learn...
Steps to Cultivating Authentic Relationships and a Meaningful Career — While Navigating Small Talk, Emotional Vampires and Social Rules.
“Going through INTx gave me the chance to listen and learn from top performers with my personality type. Rather than read a book, I was able to quickly glean insights from listening to stories of the “INTx Council.” - INTJ
“Listening to other INTJs helped me recognize and verbalize what I’ve been feeling for years. In particular, Antonia Dodge commented on how it's common for INTJs to cycle through several differents 'isms/paradigms/schools of thought' to understand the meaning of life. As I’ve been learning more about myself, my restlessness about life has started to fade.” - INTJ
“Christian's interview re-enforced the lifestyle, mindset and results of the kind of INTP I’d want to be. Honestly, Tom's take on letting the world be how it is while loosening my grip on life blew me away. I've heard a similar thing taught before, but Tom explained it in an obvious and attractive way.” - INTP
“This program helped me develop my second function (e.g. extraverted thinking or Te). It also helped me deal with the incessant thinking that from having an introverted intuition driver.” - INTJ
“Listening to other INTJs helped me recognize and verbalize what I’ve been feeling for years. In particular, Antonia Dodge commented on how it's common for INTJs to cycle through several differents 'isms/paradigms/schools of thought' to understand the meaning of life. As I’ve been learning more about myself, my restlessness about life has started to fade.” - INTJ
“Christian's interview re-enforced the lifestyle, mindset and results of the kind of INTP I’d want to be. Honestly, Tom's take on letting the world be how it is while loosening my grip on life blew me away. I've heard a similar thing taught before, but Tom explained it in an obvious and attractive way.” - INTP
“This program helped me develop my second function (e.g. extraverted thinking or Te). It also helped me deal with the incessant thinking that from having an introverted intuition driver.” - INTJ
But INTx Unleashed isn’t for Everyone.
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This Program is NOT Right for You if...
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This course includes lifetime access to:
INTx Council: 15+ hours of “off-the-record” interviews with six top-performing INTJs and INTPs. All you interviews are fully downloadable in an audio format so you can listen to them while you workout or commute.
Practical Programming: 3+ hours of tactical training videos on emotional intelligence, motivation and social intelligence (e.g. small talk, vulnerability, body language, giving advice, clarity, initiative, and office politics).
Post Game Analysis: our takeaways from each INTx interview including mental frameworks, examples, applied material, and study questions that you can seamlessly integrate into your life TODAY.
INTx Worksheets: practical, step-by-step action steps to help you apply the lessons you’re learning.
INTx Council: 15+ hours of “off-the-record” interviews with six top-performing INTJs and INTPs. All you interviews are fully downloadable in an audio format so you can listen to them while you workout or commute.
Practical Programming: 3+ hours of tactical training videos on emotional intelligence, motivation and social intelligence (e.g. small talk, vulnerability, body language, giving advice, clarity, initiative, and office politics).
Post Game Analysis: our takeaways from each INTx interview including mental frameworks, examples, applied material, and study questions that you can seamlessly integrate into your life TODAY.
INTx Worksheets: practical, step-by-step action steps to help you apply the lessons you’re learning.
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“Investing in INTx was helpful because the interviewees revealed their personal and career roadmaps — so I could tailor them to mine.” - INTP
“Through this program, I gleaned deeper insights into the thought patterns of INTJs and INTPs, especially INTx women.” - INTJ
“INTx Unleashed provided me with a good cross section view of how individual INTPs have learned to develop their cognitive functions.” - INTP
“Through this program, I gleaned deeper insights into the thought patterns of INTJs and INTPs, especially INTx women.” - INTJ
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